When I mention working for a nonprofit that supports veterans, people's faces shift. They offer sympathy — talk about homelessness, PTSD, broken lives. I appreciate the care, but I have to gently push back: I don't want their sympathy.
Here's what actually happens when veterans leave the military. Most don't struggle with homelessness or trauma. The overwhelming majority are stronger, more resilient, better leaders than when they enlisted. Yet we've built a cultural script that casts them as wounded, as people who need rescuing rather than people ready to build.
That story is costing us something real.
The leadership we're missing
After World War II, nearly half of veterans started or ran businesses. Fred Smith founded FedEx. Phil Knight built Nike. Bob McDonald led Procter & Gamble. These weren't exceptional outliers — they were part of a wave that fueled one of history's greatest economic booms.
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Start Your News DetoxToday, fewer than 6% of veterans become entrepreneurs, even though a quarter say they want to start a business. That gap matters. When veterans do launch companies, they're more likely to succeed, hire other veterans, donate to their communities, and run for office. We're not just missing out on economic growth. We're missing out on leadership.
The shift is simple but profound: instead of thanking a veteran for their service, ask them what world-changing thing they're building now. Remind them that their country needs their leadership — not in uniform, but in boardrooms, city halls, and startup offices. That reframing isn't just better for veterans' sense of purpose. Research suggests it works. When veterans feel called to lead rather than pitied, rates of homelessness, suicide, and substance use decline.
Service doesn't end when the uniform comes off. It just changes shape.
How to actually show up
If you want to support veterans, move past the clichés. Read and share stories about what veterans are creating now, not just what they endured. Buy from veteran-owned small businesses. Vote for veterans whose platforms you believe in. Support organizations like With Honor Action, which backs principled veteran candidates across party lines — the kind of cross-partisan leadership our country needs.
The day we start looking to veterans for what they can build next, rather than what they've already sacrificed, is the day we start healing something broken in how we see each other.
